So, I have been a housewife/stay at home mom for 15 years or so. At first, it was both a privilege and a horrible responsibility. I had no idea how to keep a house clean! I thought I had an idea of how to be a mom, and I did ok with one kid. When the second came along...well, the house went forgotten and I had to focus on the kids. (The second child had special needs. Life was hard during his lifetime.) Then along came the third child, the house, which had never benefited from regular cleaning, was once more put on the back burner as I took care of a tiny human being.
Now I've got a ten year old and a fifteen year old, and life is different. Not only do I have more time on my hands with both of them at school during the day, but it's become clear that I have a job to do beyond being a mom. It's a job I've spent 14 years denying I needed to do. It's a job which was overwhelming for those 14 years. Slowly, I'm climbing out of the hole of overwhelming. I'm hacking away at the chaos that is my home, turning it from scary messy to liveable and neat.
An Introduction
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Beth is wfg
Monday, January 20, 2014
4 comments:
I'm looking forward to great inspirational posts!
I can't promise "great" or "inspirational" but I'll do my best to offer something useful.
Do you ever feel humiliated, or just REALLY annoyed at those moms who claim that their kids pitch in and do their chores well and w/o constant reminders, threats, and punishment? I know I do. My kids are 15 and 11 now, and, while they WILL do things I tell them to, they do it half-arsed and complaining. Or they don't, in which case I have to resort to threats/punishment, and the chore STILL needs doing. Yeah, I've tried the "chore charts" and all that, and it turned out to be MORE work for me. *grumblegrumble*
I hear ya! My kids do the bare minimum of what's asked, unless they are in a really good mood, but rarely do they do anything because it's "one of their jobs" or it's on a chore chart. I sometimes think my kids are spoiled because they don't do much around the house. But I sort of look at it this way: School is their "job" just like my husband goes off each day to his job. My out-of-the-house job is very part time, so I have time on my hands during the week. Doesn't it make sense that the person with the most free time does the most around the house? Taking care of the house is MY job - and it's taken a long time for me to understand how to do that job effectively.
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